I love to travel overseas, but I don’t want to neglect the treasures that America has to explore right here at home. Today marks the 37 years since Biscayne National Park was created, so let’s take a look at what it has to offer visitors.
Biscayne National Park – History
Originally considered as part of the Everglades, Biscayne was designated a separate national monument in 1968 and re-designated a national park on June 28, 1980. Evidence of human civilization within the park borders goes back 10,000 years. Biscayne Bay has been home to Native Americans, pirates, and millionaires. Presidents have vacationed here and outdoor enthusiasts have long enjoyed its waters.
Nature
Biscayne covers over 172,000 acres, stretching from Key Biscayne to Key Largo. Biscayne encompasses four distinct ecosystems; an offshore reef, coral limestone keys, Biscayne Bay, and the mangrove swamps along the shoreline. Biscayne National Park is home to several endangered species, such as manatees, hawksbill sea turtles, and American crocodiles. The park also protects hundreds of species of fish, crustaceans, and birds within its boundaries.
Activities
Biscayne National Park is 95% water, so most of the activities require access by boat. There are campgrounds on Elliott Key and Boca Chita Key which are only accessible by boat. Canoeing and kayaking are popular, as are diving, snorkeling and fishing. Biscayne is home to the Maritime Heritage Trail, the only underwater archaeological trail in the National Park Service. This trail includes 5 shipwrecks that date back to the 1870s which divers can explore.
More information
Most visits to Biscayne should begin at Dante Fascell Visitor Center, 9 miles east of Homestead, Florida. For more information about the park, check out the National Park Service website.
It usually starts with one parent or the other. Or two of the kids really hit it off. Before you know it, the discussion turns to going on a vacation together. We can all hang out, it will be great – that’s the general idea. Before you click the reserve button, here are a few ideas to make sure your multi family vacation is a success.
Talk about money
Settle on a budget beforehand that everyone is comfortable with. This may be awkward, but it avoids the even more awkward situation of hashing out the bill at the end of the trip.
There should be clear expectations about which expenses are going to be split between the families and which ones are born by each family separately. If you’re renting a large house together, for example, decide who gets the master bedroom, who’s buying the groceries, etc.
Put someone in charge of logistics
Someone is booking the lodging. Someone is buying the plane tickets. Someone is in charge of getting tickets to attractions. It doesn’t have to be the same someone, but everyone needs to know who that person is. That way you don’t end up double-booking or failing to book, neither of which is an optimal arrangement.
Agree on activities – and alone time – and family time
Chances are, there are some of you that are closer than others. Maybe the moms are best friends and the dads barely know each other. Maybe the kids are the same age and get along great. Or maybe they don’t.
Prevent hurt feelings by discussing which activities you’re all going to do together, which ones are going to be done as a family. It’s okay to plan in time for people to go off on their own too.
Discuss boundaries with kids – and with regard to kids
Different families have different ideas about screen time, discipline, and behavior expectations. You don’t have to agree, but you do have to respect each others ideas. Otherwise this can quickly become a source of friction. This comes up most often because the kids will notice different standards and comment on it. They are obsessed with “fairness.” You have to decide how much you’re willing to change your parenting style to match your friends, and whether that’s a temporary (on vacation) or a permanent change.
Don’t force it
Remember, this is a vacation. It’s supposed to be fun. Don’t try to forcibly create a magic memory. Just relax and you’ll find that it happens naturally. You may find yourself doing a multi family vacation every year. Or you may find that it was a one time thing. Either way is okay.
Determining whether you need travel insurance means first determining what that phrase means to you. Travel insurance is a confusing term because it can mean a variety of things. Broadly speaking, you might seek insurance to cover any or all of these areas:
Trip Cancellation
Medical Service (Routine or Emergency)
Medical Evacuation
Lost baggage
Rental Car and Liability
In this post, I’ll go over each of them to help you decide if you need travel insurance.
Trip Cancellation
Trip cancellation insurance covers the costs associated with canceling or cutting your trip short. This is typically due to either issues with your health or that of an immediate family member. Payments can cover costs from a pre-paid package trip, airline tickets to get home, and cancellation fees for activities or lodging. As with all insurance policies, read the “fine print” to see what constitutes a health issue and who counts as a family member.
This type of insurance makes more sense when you purchase it well in advance of the trip. Booking plane tickets for a trip nine months from now, for example, you may want to consider getting cancellation insurance. Airlines frequently offer cancellation insurance as an add-on fee. But read the fine print and crunch the numbers. Only purchase the insurance if the fees are less than the change fees on the tickets or trip package.
Medical Services
Getting sick sucks. Getting sick or injured while on vacation is worse. Take a look at your existing health care insurance plan. Make sure it provides coverage while you are traveling overseas. Make sure it doesn’t exempt the kinds of activities that you plan to do while traveling (African safari, scuba diving, trekking).
If you’re covered, great. Write down any international contact numbers that you’ll need to reach your insurance company and move on. Otherwise, you might want to consider getting additional coverage, either through your existing company or a travel medical insurance specialty company.
Medical Evacuation
There’s medical care and then there’s medical evacuation. If you have to be airlifted by helicopter from a remote location to a city with decent medical care, that procedure can cost tens of thousands of dollars. Is that covered under your existing policy? Is it a likely occurrence?
All insurance is a way to manage risk. If you’re traveling to a major metropolitan area, like Sydney or Barcelona, you probably don’t need this. If you’re going to an extremely remote location and/or doing highly dangerous activities, you may decide it’s worth the expense.
Lost baggage
Your airline carriage contract provides coverage in cases of lost luggage but it is likely limited to a maximum of $200-300 per bag. If you determine that this will not cover replacing all of your belongings, you may want to consider a lost baggage rider. Similarly, you should look at your existing homeowner’s policy to see if it covers replacing high-value items like cameras, phones, and computers while traveling.
Rental car and liability
Do you plan to rent a car while on vacation? Insurance fees can quickly add up and even double the cost of the rental. Before you sign the rental car agreement, check with your existing car insurance provider and your credit card company. You may already have full or partial liability coverage through them. Make sure you know what is required to maintain that coverage – for example, do you need to have an international driver’s license? Is the policy voided when you drive off-road?
Travel Insurance Providers
Below are links to several providers that specialize in travel insurance. I’m not endorsing any of them, just providing information. You should definitely do your own research and determine whether you need travel insurance.
If you’ve flown with your kids domestically, the main difference with traveling internationally is the duration of the flights. It’s only four and a half hours by plane from Chicago to Los Angeles. It takes almost twice that long to get from Chicago to Frankfurt, Germany. That’s a lot of time in the air with kids who probably don’t want to sit for that long. Here are some tips for flying with kids to make your trip more enjoyable for everyone.
Toys for the Plane
To keep kids calm on plane rides, keep them occupied. One of my favorite travel hacks uses an old lunchbox. Pack it full of crayons, coloring books, and small toys like cars and dolls. For older kids, add books and tablets loaded with games and videos.
For tweens and older, make them responsible for selecting their own materials. This gives them a sense of ownership and makes them feel like they’re contributing to the trip.
Have a few surprises but don’t give them to the kids all in advance. Space them out and reveal them throughout the flight. That way there’s always something new.
Limit Screen Time
These days, planes have pretty sophisticated in-flight entertainment options. The longer the flight, the more choices you’re going to have. If you have strong feelings about TV and movie ratings, you can even ask about setting parental controls on your child’s screen to limit what he’s watching.
With all those options, the hardest part may be peeling your kids away from their screens. Manage expectations early by setting limits on how many shows they can watch. Get them to sleep and get some sleep yourself. The cabin crew dims the lights on long flights, which helps.
In-flight Meals
Check the airline website to see if they offer a child’s meal option. Two of the three major U.S. airlines (Delta and United) have special meals for children on international flights. Many foreign airlines do as well. You’ll need to order it in advance, usually at least 24 hours prior to the flight.
Put yourself in their shoes
The most challenging thing about flying with kids, especially little kids, is their sense of time is different than yours. For example, you might say, “when the plane lands, we’re going to our hotel.” But when the plane lands, what you’re actually doing is waiting to deplane, walking to customs and immigration, finding your luggage, changing currency, and getting in a cab line. When this happens, kids think you changed the plan when you just skip all those steps in your head.
Too busy juggling summer schedules to take a long vacation? These weekend trips from DC are all within a few hours by plane with direct flights. Take a long weekend and explore a new destination.
Montreal, Canada
Go for a long bike ride along Lachine Canal
Stop to eat at Atwater Market
Explore Montreal’s vast Underground City, a sprawling network with 20 miles of passageways connecting museums, shopping malls, and residential areas
The sign warned of the graphic nature of the scenes inside the cave. Parental discretion advised. I’m sure Haw Par Villa’s Courts of Hell were shocking back in 1937 when it opened. The displays evoked only mild curiosity from my teenage sons.
Haw Par Villa was created by the Aw brothers, the founders of the Tiger Balm ointment company. It was briefly abandoned during the Japanese occupation of Singapore in World War II but restored after the war. The sprawling park is now under the management of the Singapore Tourism Board.
The 10 Courts of Hell is a well-known component of the attraction. It functions as a Chinese equivalent to Dante’s Inferno, as each court graphically displays the punishments that await the dead based on the sins that they committed in life. There’s a twist though, as souls encounter the Wheel of Reincarnation at the last court and start all over again. The scenes might be scary for younger kids, but anyone who has seen movies like Lord of the Rings will be just fine.
I was somewhat familiar with a few of the tableaux, such as Madame White Snake, but many other scenes were confusing to me. The one below, for example:
To say that I don’t get it is something of an understatement.
This was one of those day trips that my kids had to be dragged to. Once we were there, though, they were fascinated by it. I’m glad I dragged them. We wandered around the park for a few hours, checking out each of the displays. The park has over 1,000 statues and displays. Around every corner was something new and strange. Like life-sized sculptures of kangaroos, looking very out of place in this Chinese garden.
Haw Par Villa is open daily from 9am to 7pm and is free to the public. It’s located at 262 Pasir Panjang Road.
Thursday is International Museum Day, an annual celebration coordinated by the International Council of Museums.
About International Museum Day
International Museum Day was established in 1977 to raise global public awareness of the role museums play in the development of society. In 2016, more than 35,000 museums in 145 countries participated.
In honor of International Museum Day, here are 3 of my favorite museums for kids.
Smithsonian – Washington, D.C.
The Smithsonian isn’t one museum but 19, all with free admission. Ranging from the National Zoo to the Air and Space Museum, this complex is known as “the nation’s attic” and holds more than 130 million items in its halls.
Vatican Museums – The Vatican
It’s hard to describe how ancient Rome feels. The name itself denotes centuries of history. There’s a lot to see in the second smallest sovereign state in the world. Saint Peter is buried under the Basilica. A tour of the Vatican museums includes masterpieces from the Renaissance and antiquity. It ends in the Sistine Chapel, famously painted by Michelangelo.
American Sign Museum
The American Sign Museum in Cincinnati houses an impressive array of signs. The collection demonstrates the history of signs in Amercan, from early trade signs and goldleaf signs of the early 1900s up to the neon age and the plastics used in the 1950s. There’s a free tour, which I highly recommend. The finale of the tour is a re-created American main street. This was a very cool place to stop. Big hat tip to Atlas Obscura, which is where I heard about it.
Australia’s famous for its endemic marsupials like kangaroos and wallabies. We wanted to see these unique creatures up close and personal while we were in Sydney. Fortunately, there’s a spot to do this right on Darling Harbour called Wild Life Sydney Zoo.
Wild Life Sydney Zoo
Located alongside the aquarium and Madame Tussauds, Wild Life Sydney Zoo is a small zoo dedicated to those animals native to Australia. This was great for us because that’s what we wanted to see. We got there just before it opened at 9 am and skipped the line because we pre-bought our tickets online.
Petting a wombat
My only experience with wombats up to this point was a children’s story called Where To, Little Wombat and a stuffed animal. They’re a lot bigger in real life. Like a furrier version of a large hog.
Like most zoos, there are talks by zookeepers throughout the day. Immediately following the wombat talk, a few of us were allowed to go into the wombat’s habitat and pet him for a small donation to a wildlife conservation fund. We went in one at a time and got a briefing from the keeper about how it would work and what to do if things went wrong. Like if we were approached by a rock wallaby, for example.
The actual petting was over a fence while the wombat ate some veggies. I listened to his contented snuffling sounds as I petted his soft fur. It was very cool.
Kangaroos
This kangaroo looked stoned.
We got to the kangaroo exhibit at the same time as a school field trip of what looked like 3rd graders. Needless to say, we waited until they were almost through before going in.
The zoo’s website states that you can go into the kangaroo habitat and walk around in the same space that they do. That’s true. It’s also true that there’s an area for the animals that you can’t walk in and the kangaroos learned long ago to stay in that area. Throughout the day, there are sessions where the keepers can lure one of them past you with some snackage and you can pet it. The keeper brought two kangaroos over but the one pictured above sat with its back towards us and pretended to ignore us the whole time. The fur on the other one was soft like a rabbit. We took our turn with the field trippers and moved on.
We also got to pet a sugar glider and stand within inches of a koala. Holding a koala is a key tourist goal, and lots of places with lead you to think you can do so for a fee. In New South Wales, however, it’s against the law. Tourists can get close but not touch. The truth is, koalas are very solitary creatures who like to sleep about 20 hours a day. Being used as a tourist attraction stresses them out. Get close, take the picture, and move on.
Other Options
If Wild Life Sydney isn’t your cup of tea, there are other options. Some friends of ours visited Featherdale Zoo in the Blue Mountains. You can read about their adventures here. There’s also the famous Taronga Zoo, of course, on the shores of Sydney Harbour.
I could see that most of the fast food establishments were closed as I entered the food court. I had come in looking for a gyro but the gyro shop was closed. I felt annoyed about settling for a sandwich. The hall was nearly empty as I made my way across the room. The brightness of the fluorescent lights seemed to clash with the deserted room. A soft voice caught my attention as I passed one of the tables.
“Sir?”
I turned to see an old man sitting alone in the middle of the vast room. I say old but I tend to underestimate my own age and overestimate that of others. I saw the gray flecked in his black hair even as I ignore the gray spots in my own. His salt and pepper beard was neatly trimmed. His brown courdoroy jacket showed signed of wear. He looked up at me with a soft smile and chocolate brown eyes.
“How do you spell dirt?”
I stepped closer and leaned down. I was sure I had misheard the question. “Durp?” I asked.
“Dirt.”
I glanced at the round white Formica table. Hanging off the edge was a cane. A plastic shopping bag stuffed with clothes lay on the yellow chair next to him. His slender brown hands rested on an open book. I saw that it was a Bible. To the left of the Bible lay a spiral notebook. Three words were printed neatly on each line, like an elementary school writing assignment.
ball spring paper
home clean Jesus
apple clothes red
“You need to know how to spell dirt?” I asked.
“Yes, please.” Again the soft smile. “Sorry to trouble you.”
“It’s no trouble,” I said, but I still wasn’t sure that I’d heard him correctly.
“dirk?”
“dirt,” he repeated.
“It’s d-i-r-t.”
As I started spelling, he grabbed a blue ball point pen and wrote, repeating each letter aloud. He wrote in lower case and with effort.
“d-r”
“No,” I made an effort to speak slower. “It’s d-i-r.”
He looked up at me, confusion on his face.
I pointed to the space between the “d” and the “r”. “The ‘i’ goes here.”
“Would you write it for me?”
I took the pen and wrote, speaking as I did.
“d-i-r-t.” I handed the pen back.
He stared at the letters for a moment. I could see his lips moving as he repeated the sequence silently to himself. Then he looked up at me and smiled.
“You write real good,” he said. “Did you go to college?”
I felt my cheeks begin to flush. “Yes, I did,” I stammered.
The gentleman kept smiling. “Write real good,” he repeated, half to himself. I wanted to explain that I had learned to spell ‘dirt’ long before college, but that seemed like an unnecessary correction to his impression.
“Thank you,” he said.
I nodded quickly and turned away. He turned back to his Bible and kept working.
I thought of all the arguments and counter-arguments about poverty and race in America. About the differences in education outcomes based on socio-economic status and about the partisan bickering about the appropriate role of government in the lives of the governed. All of these concepts faded in comparison to the example of quiet perseverance in front of me.
As I walked away, my problems seemed smaller. I said a small prayer. I gave thanks for all that I have. I prayed for the old, gray black gentleman and his studies.
I thought about him for the rest of the week. I was happy that I had been able to help. I wondered if I should have bought him some food. I regretted that I didn’t sit down and talk to him about the Bible.
I wished my kids had been with me, but I couldn’t explain why. Would I have used him as a living teachable moment, to stress to them the importance of a good education? Would I have been worried that they would say something that hurt his feelings as I tried to help him? Probably both, I reflected. I decided that it was better that I had been alone for the encounter.
There are 7 billion people on this planet, each with a separate story. Everyday our stories intersect in ways planned and unimagined. This was one of those unplanned moments. It broke my heart and made me grateful for all of my blessings at the same time.